Sometimes, when two people get together in the name of love and engage in the promise of marriage, they grow apart. It might take weeks, months, or even years for them to realize that they are not made for each other, and there’s absolutely no shame in that.
Relationships are tricky to navigate. Every single person on this planet has a unique character that he/she cannot possibly adjust to perfectly fit their partner. There is always a concession to be made somehow and at some point, for the relationship to work.
“Find that one person you are in harmony with on different levels, not just one.”Faisal Bin Laden – Ep 03: Kun: The Journey to BE with Reem Shaheen
Learning From Your Mistakes in Marriage
Faisal Bin Laden speaks on his divorce from his wife, with whom he has spent over a decade of his life. He explains that it is incredibly difficult in a relationship to match each other’s values to the letter. However, it is important that couples do not possess conflicting core values. Faisal believes that for a relationship to work, the couple must have matching goals despite the different paths they might take to reach them.
“it’s okay if different people have different values, but it’s not okay if they are completely opposite.”Faisal Bin Laden – Ep 03: Kun: The Journey to BE with Reem Shaheen
Accepting Yourself and Moving On
Following a breakup or a divorce, you will most likely feel denial, rage, emptiness, and despair. This is perfectly natural, and you may even find yourself reliving some of these emotions several times before healing.
Losing your partner might feel like you have lost a fragment of yourself, and that is completely okay. Allow yourself to mourn, cry, and exteriorize your emotions accordingly. Let go of any feelings of guilt, and know that the question isn’t who was right and who was wrong, but what happened and why. Understanding the reasons that led you to fall out, will eventually help you grow emotionally and carry out the lessons you’ve learned onto your next relationship.
Although it might seem like it, this is not the end of the world. Make it your mission to find a consistent feeling of self-confidence and happiness. Be your own fulfillment. Try new activities that can help you grow, develop a new skill, or fill your free time with practices that yield positive outcomes. And no matter how cliche it may seem, believe you can do what you want to do.
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